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Island man’s goodwill gesture proves costly

Optometrist Dr. Jeff Harding, holding Janessa and Tia — two of his four children — will not be deterred in continuing his practice of carrying out acts of kindness despite a recent goodwill gesture blowing up in his face. Guardian photo

Optometrist Dr. Jeff Harding, holding Janessa and Tia — two of his four children — will not be deterred in continuing his practice of carrying out acts of kindness despite a recent goodwill gesture blowing up in his face.

Published on March 12, 2013
Published on March 11, 2013
Jim Day  RSS Feed

One incident won't deter Jeff Harding of Meadowbank from random acts of kindness in future

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Meadowbank , Charlottetown

Jeff Harding is facing a good-size bill for paying it forward.

Harding, an optometrist who lives in Meadowbank, likes to do good deeds. He likes too to get his family of six in on kind-hearted acts as well.

There is great merit, he feels, in teaching his children the value of “passing out good deeds without expecting anything in return.’’

Well, a recent goodwill gesture did not result in that same special warm feeling that Harding has grown accustomed to through past charitable actions over the years.

Harding and his clan were keen to set out to help someone who had next to nothing. They kept their eyes peeled while in downtown Charlottetown hoping to spot a person in particular dire straits.

Harding was walking with two of his children about one month ago when he stumbled, he thought, across a good candidate for a good deed.

A man had just opened up a sign that read “Need a place to stay.’’ The man was sitting on a milk crate. He was wrapped in a blanket on this cold day.

“He looked homeless,’’ said Harding.

So, filled with good intentions, Harding made his way to the relatively high-end hotel Delta Prince Edward. He made arrangements for his special guest to enjoy a night of comfort off the streets.

Harding returned to give the apparently homeless man a room card along with the news that he would be sleeping in style this particular evening.

“He thanked me and shook my hand,’’ Harding recalled.

“You try to do something to help someone out and this is what they do. It’s kind of a risk that you take. We weren’t too angry about it.’’ - Jeff Harding

The gratitude clearly ended there.

The very next day, Harding received a call from the hotel. He was told there had been an incident.

A guest noticed a man carrying a television set down the hall. Turns out that man was none other than the same person who had enjoyed a free room courtesy of a goodhearted stranger.

The man also stole a duvet in addition to the TV.

The bill — stolen television set, stolen duvet, and accommodation for one night — came to more than $900.

Harding, naturally, was disappointed to receive a large bill in exchange for his act of kindness. Still, he was able to take the misfortune in stride.

“You try to do something to help someone out and this is what they do,’’ he said.

“It’s kind of a risk that you take. We weren’t too angry about it.’’

Harding has no intention to end his acts of random kindness. The family, he adds, will make a point to “try to cover our bases a little better’’ in the future.

As for the man who took him for a financial ride, Harding has heard that police have charged him or are in the process of charging him for the theft.

Harding is not holding his breath over getting his money back. Nor does he wish the culprit ill will.

“I just hope and pray that he can find his way somehow,’’ he said.

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    Claire Arsenault
    - March 15, 2013 at 15:01:58

    I'd like to know how the "bum" walked out with a television undetected??

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    Derwood
    - March 14, 2013 at 13:50:31

    Huge kudos for the Hardings

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    Nice Gesture But.....
    - March 14, 2013 at 10:30:23

    I commend Mr. Harding but I have to say it is very irresponsible of him to go to the Delta and check in under his name then go up the street and give complete access to a complete stranger. I am sure the hotel are not at all happy with Mr. Harding for allowing this unauthorized guest into their establishment nor as a guest would I be remotely happy with the switch. His kindness was very irresponsible of him and he could have shown his kindness with a gift certificate for a stay somewhere or gift cards to help someone down on their luck get a good meal somewhere.

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    Kaye Crozier
    - March 13, 2013 at 11:51:55

    Wonderful act of kindness to teach your children..Keep up the good work!!!

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      Jeff Graham
      - March 13, 2013 at 18:26:39

      Those of you who feel this was a good idea go ahead and give your Visa to a hotel and let some unknown transient stranger spend a mystery night. He's lucky this guy didn't do worse do that room. I am not being mean just using common sense and good judgement which was not employed in this case. Good lesson to teach but be reasonable. Misguided.

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    robb
    - March 12, 2013 at 20:25:17

    im all for helping someone out,but im not sure why you would have to inform the guardian about your great deed that went ary,just dont see the point of it....

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    KM
    - March 12, 2013 at 19:41:15

    For those of you who say this money could have been spent elsewhere should consider that Dr. Harding might just do that already. How do you know that he doesn't regularly support the Food Bank or any other charitable organization? You don't! and had this particular story turned out the way it should have, then this kind gesture would have fell silent amongst all of Dr. Harding's other good deeds and we would be none the wiser. Everyone's a critic! and to "WAS A BUM" thank you for sharing your experience and serving our country. It's so wonderful that you found the strength to overcome your hardships and become the person you are today! .

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    BobertBhiz
    - March 12, 2013 at 18:27:25

    To: "PROUD OF HER TATOOED SON". Sadly you missed the point, and spelled "ignorant" wrong. Tattoos don't define the person, they just reflect bad decision making and trying so very hard to be a human bumper sticker. When you have someone who "can't afford to eat" but can always manage to stay high and pay for tattoos from panhandling, then you're on the way to understanding my point. Panhandling will only stop when gullible people new to the panhandling epidemic realize their kindhearted actions are misguided. Once you've had to deal with a group of aggressive panhandlers, you might then realize what has become of your once-clean town.

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    Janet
    - March 12, 2013 at 18:14:36

    There are no guarantees in life and we are to give without expecting anything back which is exactly what Mr. Harding did. He is very wise in not letting the situation taint him but he still continues to give. That is commendable. More of us should do that.

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    Ghoulman
    - March 12, 2013 at 16:17:35

    This is why charity fails. The 'good deed' fellow feels great for what he had done but the reality is that the homeless fellow was still homeless and thus took the opportunity to better his next few days with stolen booty. Reality is knowing if ... if... one will have food and shelter over the next three days. Charity is not giving a damn beyond today and patting yourself on the back for it.

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    observer
    - March 12, 2013 at 15:47:13

    To all of you on here who like to find places to express anger and feel superior and pass judgement please find more socially useful ways to spend your time.

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    JonJon
    - March 12, 2013 at 15:02:11

    Also the $900.00 plus what you paid for the room could have helped a lot more people than just one person. Donate to the salvation army the soup kitchener. Do you know how many people could have had meals with this money !!??

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      Tara
      - March 12, 2013 at 17:36:58

      First off Jon, I think we need to clarify that the 900$ was the cost of the room, TV, and the duvet. It would have been a mere 140$ just for the room without any problems. Sure that would have fed quite a few people, but he was helping someone that supposedly needed a warm place to sleep for the night. I don't see anything wrong with that whatsoever. It looks like he donates to many different causes and I'm sure the charities you mentioned have been helped by him at some point.

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    lesson learned
    - March 12, 2013 at 13:50:21

    I have learned two things in my time regarding people on the street with signs. If the sign says they are hungry, I go to McDonalds (or something close by) buy them a meal and take it back to them. The worst/best thing they could do is eat the food! If the sign says they need some money, I give them the change out of my pocket. Worst case, they are ripping me off and I am out a few dollars. Best case, they were able to use the money for food. It does seem a little silly that someone would be willing to pay for a room and sign something about damages or liability when they have no control over the person actually staying in the room. This person would have had a nice place to stay for the night but the temptation would have been too much if they knew they would be sleeping on the street the next night. The duvet would have been for warmth, the tv would have been for money.

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      LA
      - March 12, 2013 at 14:39:05

      Very true. Not to mention many times they are not really indigent at all and are just looking to make cash without working. I have a young relative in a larger city who has loving, well-to-do parents who would help him in a heartbeat (i.e., he's not really homeless and desperate) but chooses to appear as a street person for whatever personal problems he has which are out of their control. I wouldn't mind helping someone who was truly desperate, so maybe instead of helping "street people" who may not be what they appear, he should sponsor a working single mom or someone who could truly use a lift up. Good on him for having the means and will to do so, however.

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    Dontwanttobetaken
    - March 12, 2013 at 13:19:27

    To the kind Dr don't let one bad experience stop you from helping someone who really needs a hand up great job and seem like you are setting a great example for your children,chip up.

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    Joe Blow
    - March 12, 2013 at 12:58:58

    Ya can't blame the homeless person, he was simply doing what our Ghiz Liberal government has taught him to do....take what he is given. Islanders pay taxes and our government robs from them for personal use. This homeless man was given something and stole it for personal gain using the model our Island government has taught us. Unfortunate incident for Mr Harding....but nobody to blame but the leaders of our province.

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      LA
      - March 12, 2013 at 14:31:38

      Don't be ridiculous. It has nothing to do with your political beefs whatsoever. At all, end of story.

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    Frank
    - March 12, 2013 at 12:11:58

    Emma, presumably the giant cross around this man's neck, and the fact that he hopes and prays the culprit will find his way suggests this deed was a religious act. Not that there is anything wrong with that. A good deed is a good deed.

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      jake buchanan
      - March 12, 2013 at 13:43:55

      Perhaps dropping a few bucks in the tin can or bringing him a coffee would have been a better place to start. This was a very extreme length to go to in order to teach your kids a lesson and display some kindness. Kind of you but ...

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    Donnie
    - March 12, 2013 at 11:29:22

    Sorry to hear he was taken advantage of, looks like the homeless person is going to get some free room & board out of the theft as well, so in a way, the good Dr. is getting him a few bonus days of food & shelter. A certain small percentage of every group will be the type to find a way to exploit a good deed or individual. The shame is on them, not the good samaritan, for trying to help his/her fellow man.

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    proud of her tatooed son
    - March 12, 2013 at 11:20:04

    wow very disturbed by the comment that Bobertbhiz made about booze, tattoos, hair dye, piercings and drugs, don't say your uncle BobertBhiz didn't offer you better advice wow just stop and realize what you just did my son is covered in tatoos and piercings he is 25 and never had a drink in his life or does not do drugs so befor you start putting people down that are covered as you state in these things just rember my son is in his 4th yr of medicial so if your dying on the street with a heart attack or in bad accident just rember if this kid tries to save your life rember he is the one you put down because of the tats and piercings maybe the ignorent one who needs to learn something is you MR BOBERTBHIZ

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    Marie
    - March 12, 2013 at 11:13:24

    Dr.Jeff Harding, you are one fine upstanding young man. Your family and friends...and now strangers... are very proud to know you. Your children are learning empathy and compassion...two of man's finest qualities. To the gentleman you helped: Shame on you for taking advantage of someone's kindness. Mr. Harding didn't insult you or turn his nose up in disgust...he reached out to someone not as fortunate as he...and you, in turn slapped his face. He could've helped many with his generous charity yet he choose you. Some people are homeless, some choose to be homeless and some are really just bums. Where do you think you fit in???

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      Not really
      - March 12, 2013 at 18:23:10

      His kids are learning how to be a sucker. Nothing else. This was a foolish act.

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    Not Naive Punk
    - March 12, 2013 at 11:04:17

    After living 25 years in Toronto and 7 years in Montreal, I've seen it all. Living on PEI and not seeing the real world makes a person very naive and a sucker ... case in point. I don't give any money to a person of able mind/body that is panhandling. File this under lesson learned.

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    INHISPLACE
    - March 12, 2013 at 10:57:19

    Paying it forward is something I think we should all aspire to no matter how "rich" we are. Call it Karma, Christian ethics or just looking out for one another. I do not think that people become pan handlers or "bums" (what a horrible word) as a professional choice. I am not surprised, however, that this man took advantage of the situation he found himself in at the hotel. For those of us who are so quick to judge him and label him take a moment, or better five, and think what your life would be like if you lost EVERYTHING and were forced on to the streets. And one day a stranger granted you one night in luxury. What would you do? Of course stealing is wrong. Of course you should be grateful and go right back out to the streets to beg in the cold with your head bowed. Of course you should be ashamed of who you are and hide in the crevices of this snotty city because you are not good enough. Just be careful those Betters-Than-You don't trip over you....

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    Tanya
    - March 12, 2013 at 10:21:42

    Tattoos, hairdye and piercings?!?! Seriously? Your small minded lumping of theses sorts of things in with alcohol and drugs is ridiculous, ignorant and uninformed.

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      mr.nobody
      - March 12, 2013 at 10:51:16

      This is my commandment, That you love one another, as I have loved you.... “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” To be thought a fool for Christ is a badge of honor in my opinion.

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    Was A Bum
    - March 12, 2013 at 10:03:46

    Over 40 years ago I was a "Bum" on the streets as Vick so eloguently referred to those who are down on our/their luck Were it not for the kindness and compassion of strangers I would never have seen my own worth, I would probably have died out there. Instead, after 3 years of the harshest living conditions, being beaten and left for dead, often going hungry and yes, yes getting drunk or high was part of the coping and survival that I too indulged in. Were it not for the Non judgemental souls who truelly wanted to help and were not looking for pats on the back, hero awards or compensation I would not have gone on to getting off the streets, finishing my education, joining the Canadian Military and Serving Your Country for just under 15 years. I Was a BUM on the streets who did not know her worth, I Believed I was that worthless bum until enough people with love and kindness in them showed me I was worth a little hand up. Many of Your Troops are homeless, for many reasons. The Only way you Might glean a little Understanding would be to serve Where they did, under conditions you would Run from. Supporting Your Troops might just mean that "spare change" you cling to. Have a nice day.

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    rose crichton
    - March 12, 2013 at 10:00:53

    God love you sir,,,,,you are setting a good example for your children and a lesson that all is not what it seems......stay kind, and don't let one HUMAN let you down, he is in need of prayers as he doesn't know the real value of life and love.

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    PLEASE CLARIFY
    - March 12, 2013 at 09:36:59

    Although it is disheartening to know that this man's generosity was sorely abused, just look at the joy in his face and the listen to the peace in his acceptance of the situation. I suspect that these both would have been diminished had he just ignored the man and left without helping. It might be that it truly is as much or more about 'the giving' as it is 'the receiving'. Many other comments have pointed out a truth in that these people have made literal 'hand to mouth' existence a way of life and interventions likes these will not often help the 'homeless'... but it has given a gift of sorts to Dr Harding. We may look askance at his 'naivety' but shouldn't we look equally askance at the corruption and greed in our PEI politics... I hear the PCs are looking for a new leader... many there could learn that it is only in the giving toward public service and not the receiving of insider benefits that will makes 'politics' a noble goal.

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    Heartwarming
    - March 12, 2013 at 09:25:00

    It wonderful to help others. God bless you. The best gifts are the ones that you can give free and clear. By putting someone in a hotel, you are responsible for them until they leave. A lesson was learned here for sure. Compassion from people like Mr. Harding is what will help someone feel life is worth living and maybe to try to turn their lives around. Ridicule and judgment is what keeps people down. Please keep sharing your kindness Mr. Harding. There are many people who need it.

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    Jill Macdonald
    - March 12, 2013 at 08:26:17

    Proof that no good deed goes unpunished. And the more advanced the society, the more naive. Just read anon comments to see what people are really like.

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    Karma
    - March 12, 2013 at 08:18:18

    Mr. Harding. I think I came across the same man. He was in the Royal Bank, lying on the floor covered in a blanket with a sign next to him. I gave him a few bucks as well. I truly believe in Karma and I think your collection of Merit is immense. You inspire me.

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    BobertBhiz
    - March 12, 2013 at 08:10:06

    One of the many reasons you should also NEVER give money to a panhandler. They will take advantage, many more panhandlers will show up, and like seagulls, will become much more aggressive. As long as it's profitable, they will come in droves until every tourist is gone. Like every other bylaw in the city, panhandling will receive the silent treatment. Give to your local charities, red cross, soup kitchens. If you really want to hand your hard earned money over to strangers for booze, tattoos, hair dye, piercings and drugs, don't say your uncle BobertBhiz didn't offer you better advice.

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      they?
      - March 12, 2013 at 10:05:21

      The word "They" is used a lot and that says a lot, doesn't it?

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    Jean Valjean
    - March 12, 2013 at 08:06:42

    Hopefully this act of kindness will eat away at the man and he will reform his ways,God bless both these people. I guess it is really all about the giving without expectation. Be prudent.

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    Chad
    - March 12, 2013 at 07:42:06

    What a great display of humanity. Not only are you doing something most people don’t have the courage to do.. You have tasted the sourness of people’s ability to be harsh and take advantage of someone’s good will, yet you continue unfathomed. I applud your charachter and envy your mind set.

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      jeff
      - March 12, 2013 at 19:22:03

      I second your thoughts, Chad Well done, Mr Harding

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    vick
    - March 12, 2013 at 07:27:03

    Most the of people you see pan handling on PEI # 1 are not from PEI and are doing this for a living! Help families out that are living below poverty, law abiding people looking for that break! 99% of these bums on the st dont want to be helped and we should stop handing them money. I spoke to a couple of them who claim they were from Toronto and heard PEI is the most giving MAN so lets hang on PEI! LOSERS! Please people stop giving these people money and the city should be putting the run to them!

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    Justine Thyme
    - March 12, 2013 at 05:52:23

    As a huge participant in paying it forward, a Tim's card (or a card to any other 24/7 food place) will give the person both a warm place to get out of the cold and funds to purchase a warm meal. Gift cards are one of my favorite items to give away, you can get them in any amount.

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    kyle
    - March 12, 2013 at 04:12:23

    There is a thin line between being "a fool for the sake of Christ" and "for chrissake you're a fool." Not sure which side of that line Jeff Harding is on.Charity is a virtue, but so is Prudence, one that should be preached more frequently on Sunday.

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      Emma
      - March 12, 2013 at 11:37:34

      Kyle-nowhere in the story is Christ even mentioned.People can do a good deed without it being a religious act.

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