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Delivering kindness




Mary Ripley

Mary Ripley

Published on October 7, 2011
Published on September 30, 2011
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Mary Ripley of Charlottetown is a goodwill ambassador on (two) wheels

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Mitchell's , Kool-Aid , Charlottetown , P.E.I. , Canada

The loaf of bread came out of nowhere.

The surprise — and tasty — home-baked offering was left hanging from my mailbox with no indication of its origin.

Mary Ripley, I later discovered, would prefer it that way.

The Charlottetown woman with a heart of gold doesn't want any fuss made over her generous spirit.

Ripley explained that she selected my home for the simple reason that my 11-year-old son Jack, sitting on the front porch humming a tune, caught her attention as she rode by on her bicycle.

"He seemed to have music in him,'' she observed warmly.

And, for any number of reasons that catch her fancy, Ripley has dropped off loaf after loaf at one home or another.

For 11 years she has been doing this. To date, she has baked and biked some 5,000 or so loaves of bread, hanging the food on doorknobs and mailboxes.

So just what is the motivation behind Ripley's goodwill?

"I just thought it would be nice,'' she said matter-of-factly.

"I don't do it to get anything. It's just nice.''

While Ripley certainly never started baking and delivering bread for any monetary gain, she was disappointed by the lack of appreciation shown by many recipients.

For years, she chose to give bread to people she would see around the city -- people she deemed to be not too well off.

Still, the indifferent -- perhaps even entitlement -- attitude that often persisted among the recipients of the bread did not make Ripley hit the brakes on her bicycle. She kept baking and delivering to this group for a good, solid decade.

For the past year, though, she has shifted gears.

She has been delivering her home-baked bread to residents in a more affluent part of the city -- and a select, lucky few are greeted by carrot cake or cinnamon rolls when opening their front doors.

The ensuing immense gratitude has warmed her heart.

"It just blows me away the way people appreciate it (now),'' she said.

Appreciation has come in a variety of forms, from offers of pork to movie vouchers.

Two women even gave her a thank-you card containing a one hundred dollar bill.

An enclosed note included the following observation of Ripley: "Always smiling, despite the nasty weather . . . meanwhile, the rest of the world is going to 'hell in a handbasket' and there you are a trooper -- going strong.''

At 62, Ripley is feistier than many half her age.

Inclement weather isn't enough to keep her off her bicycle.

With sturdy resolve, she navigates her bike in rain, strong winds, and throughout the cold of winter when road conditions allow.

She carts her groceries home by balancing several bags on either end of the handlebars.

Ripley, who has never owned a driver's licence, also bikes a good four or five kilometers each day -- every day -- heading to and from the home of Elaine Mackenzie.

Ripley provides home care for Mackenzie, who has Parkinson's disease and needs a walker for mobility.

Mackenzie knows money is not what motivates Ripley to peddle over every day to cook, clean and converse.

The daily outing is more a labour of love, than a job, Mackenzie rightly observes.

"She is very conscientious, she's very kind -- and loving,'' she said.

"I wait for her to come. It gives me something to get up for.''

Ripley says Mackenzie can call her any time of the day. She adds there has never been a day when she thought she didn't want to make the trip to Mackenzie's home.

"I'm the most dependable person I know,'' said Ripley in illustration of her trademark wry humour.

That Ripley can be counted on is no joke, however.

Gerard Mitchell, the province's police commissioner and retired chief justice, has only praise for the woman.

Ripley cared for Mitchell's mother, Margaret, with great care and attention. She would offer reliable and upbeat companionship, taking Margaret out almost every day.

"She was very, very good to my mother -- very protective and kept her very lively,'' said Mitchell.

"Because of Mary she was able to stay on her own a lot more than she would have been able to otherwise.''

Remarkably, Ripley claims to have lead a dull life. If so (and I'm not convinced on this point), it comes after enjoying a colourful past.

Ripley spent the first nine or 10 years of her life having inmates -- not in-laws -- as next door neighbours.

Her father, who died when Ripley was just 12, was "head jailer'' of the old 1911 Jail that now houses a pizza joint.

The third youngest of three children to Rose and Fred McAleer, Ripley recalls playing with prisoners.

"They were just town drunks,'' she said.

"They would just do stupid things to get in there to have a meal and a bed...they were in and out, in and out. You just got to know them.''

The family moved from their jail-side home to a place near the Charlottetown Hotel on Kent Street.

Ripley remembers setting up Kool-Aid stands to cash in on all the rich tourists. She never dreamed of going to any of the far-away places home to the visitors.

"I guess I never had anything and I never wished I did,'' she said.

Ripley did end up traveling, however, but mostly around P.E.I. and across Canada thanks to marrying Gary Ripley, who was an airplane mechanic in the military.

The couple lived in Summerside, Nova Scotia and British Columbia, before returning to the base in Summerside.

Mary Ripley found work as a waitress in each locale, choosing to work in the evenings to maximize tips.

"I was always a fantastic waitress,'' she said with geniune assurance.

Ripley's son, Jason, is moving to London, Ont. with his wife and two young children.

Christopher, who was her first son and a computer engineer, died of a heart attack five years ago.

The loss of her 34-year-old boy was naturally crushing but Ripley finds great comfort in strongly feeling Christopher's presence in her home to this day.

Ripley separated in 1998 and has lived in her current home on Bayfield Street in Charlottetown for the past 11 years.

For Ripley, who enjoys the odd rum and coke with lemon, the house offered yet another brush with the boozy side of society that had included serving drinks for years and spending her early years next door to temporary, incarcerated drunks.

Turns out she had just moved into the home of a former bootlegger. During her first couple summers, people would knock at the door looking "to buy a dozen'', she said with a laugh.

As for continuing to serve up baked bread and other goodwill, Ripley remains open for business.

"There will be no slowing down.''

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    Allison McAleer
    - November 3, 2011 at 11:29:11

    This is my Aunt Mary... BEST bread around... a true reflection of her goodness as a person. Love you Aunt Mary! XOXOX

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    Chelle Browne
    - October 10, 2011 at 11:08:34

    You'All can have a bit of Mary in you IF you tried, ... J ust a little bit. I'm sure that would make Mary happy AND oh what a way to show Thank You so easy ... Start being a more kinder, more caring person to even the people you don't know.

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    Bobby Justice
    - October 9, 2011 at 23:18:54

    A truly great 'feel good' story! And Mary's bread IS to die for, especially with lobster or a good steak. And the whole article is completely accurate, Mary is incredibly driven. The only anecdote that I would add was when Mary served Colonel Harland Sander, as in "The Colonel" of Kentucky Fried Chicken fame, when she was waitress in Summerside. It was funny that Mary served the 'King of Chicken,' a big hamburger for dinner. With thousands of restaurants of his own, I think he must have been impressed...as I remember he gave Mary a pretty handsome tip :-)

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    Sandra Boswell
    - October 8, 2011 at 21:13:42

    Mary is a wonderful person. She is humbled, but she is no pushover. Giving kindness to strangers is one of the greatest gifts. It is easy to give to those you love or know. Mary you're doing a fabulous job. There is no doubt in my mind that you bake and deliver this bread to strangers out of the goodness of your heart. Biking at 62. Mary is serving as a role model for those who are addicted to technoloy, and never move, let alone walk. I suggest those interested in getting fit join many on bike about and delivery of bread. Come on Charlottetown Mary has put many of us to shame who are not physically fit to drive a bike a 100 feet. We should have a BIKE WITH MARY DAY!

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    Nancy Gay Snow
    - October 8, 2011 at 21:12:38

    I just met this woman recently and it is nice to know that there actually are people like this in the world. She is the real deal. And I hope she remembers me sometime in her travels as I would be really grateful for a loaf of her bread! Not only is she the 'bread fairy' she enriches people's lives in so many other ways and the energy she gives off is..well..inspiring.

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    Nancy Riley
    - October 8, 2011 at 14:25:55

    This lady is a wonderfful person!! This is a great thing to do for people, as it would be truly appreciated by all who received her kindness. There are "many" people out there that do wonderful things for people, and just not acknowledged in The Guardian, we must not forget about them either.

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    Max Power
    - October 8, 2011 at 14:24:06

    Nice lady, she live up the street from me. Her dog like to leave presents in peoples yards too.

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      Known her my whole life
      - October 8, 2011 at 17:33:37

      Hey there Max, If I were you, I would be collecting all the dogs "presents" they are probably going to be worth something someday. Mary is the most wonderful woman I have ever met.

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    SG
    - October 8, 2011 at 12:04:45

    It is truly uplifting to know there is such a compassionate, caring, kind lady in our City. A gift made with love and delivered from the heart is the best gift anyone could receive and no amount of money could replace it. God Bless you Mary Ripley and I'm sure He Will. This story reminds me of a Song by Anne Murray We sure could use a Little Good News Today. You certainly delivered.

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    Patti
    - October 8, 2011 at 11:58:12

    Oh Mary, So glad your kind soul has made the headlines. You are a sweetie. What a great story!!!

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    bobbi ford
    - October 8, 2011 at 11:57:44

    A wonderful story indeed. I had the pleasure of knowing Chris and its clear to see where he got his kind heart and beaming energy. I even recall a conversation with him where he was eager to go home and bake some bread! Keep up the great work Mary!

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    Michael Le Clair
    - October 8, 2011 at 11:57:40

    Mary is a wonderful neighbor and friend. She is a frequent visitor to our home, where the door is always open to her kindness and charm. Her generous heart is legend. I am sure she inspires love and affection wherever she goes, A real saint of a person.

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    Summerside Girl
    - October 8, 2011 at 11:56:24

    It is really nice to see this lady have a heart of gold no matter what she does in life. There is not alot of people out there that will do anything for nothing because it costs . She seems a real gem even though I do not know this lady. We need more people around like her. Life is to short and seems she can really make a difference in someone's life.

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    Walter Wilkins
    - October 8, 2011 at 11:56:17

    Finally, an article worthy of the paper's name! Islanders need access to more of this type of information, and not just on Thanksgiving weekend. Good for The Guardian for making this a front page story. I did not know of Mary Ripley before, now I do. Magic. Shining light on kind, giving, ordinary people reminds us all about how to live.

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    John MacInnis
    - October 8, 2011 at 11:56:08

    Well, I just had to share this story with some people I know in Toronto, because this is another classic example of what life can be like on the Island. One friend told me he would be ecstatic if somebody left a loaf of homemade bread hanging on his doorknob, but he said if that actually happened in the area where he lives in Toronto, which is a very nice suburban neighbourhood, then he would be very leery of the free bread, because things of that nature just do not happen in Toronto, not even during the era when the city was known as Toronto the Good. So the story is now being shared in Toronto, now it's time to share it with a couple of people in New York City. I can't wait for their reaction.

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    Proud Islander
    - October 7, 2011 at 23:01:54

    What a wonderful way to end a day!!! Thank you Ms. Ripley for making me smile today :) While the news all this week has been mostly negative (due to our election coverage - which thankfully - and hopefully, is over with for a while) it is wonderful to open the newspaper and read this good news story! There are not enough of these stories and I just wish there could be more on a regular basis. Ms. Ripley, thank you again for making our little Island a much happier place each and every day - you are an ANGEL!!!

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    Erin Mullen
    - October 7, 2011 at 22:57:06

    I lived on Bayfield Street and remember Mary and her little dog Josh. I moved away from there and recently met up with Mary, and I got a loaf of bread! She is so lovely. Thanks for all you do Mary Ripley Believe it or Not! :)

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